So hey, am I the only one who gets kind of really annoyed when lesbians who think androgyny is “so hot” go so far as to actively try to date FTMs?
Yeah okay, I understand falling in love with a person before their gender and not staying confined to your label. Totally.
That’s how it should be. The lesbians I’m talking about, though, are the ones who are obviously strictly into women sexually and talk about gender identity as if it’s some kind of stylistic choice.
I mean, I’m not trans, and I’ll never fully know what it’s like to be trans, but from what I’ve gathered, being FTM isn’t exactly the easiest thing to go through. Dysphoria sounds like a living hell and transitioning is a painful and lengthy experience for most that ends in suicide a good 40% of the time. If I were trans, I’m pretty sure I’d feel totally disrespected if someone, let alone the person I’m dating, treated my quest to be at peace with my body as some kind of cute accessory.
I had a crush on this girl once. Well, he was introduced to me as a girl, and I was attracted to him as a girl, but it was later revealed to me that he in fact had just begun to identify as male. Immediately I backed off and decided to be his friend instead. Not out of disgust, but because, well… I’m a lesbian. I like girls. I like girls who like that they’re girls. I like tits and curves, vaginas and sweet, sultry lady-voices. All of these are things this guy has but doesn’t want; things that make him hate himself and that he wants to be rid of as soon as possible. Could you even imagine how tremendously unfair of me that would be, to try to date someone when I’m attracted to the very parts of them that prevent them from being themselves? Fuck that.